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Sabra
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Posted on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 5:24 am:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

As I expected and warned you all, yep, mom has not only asked me to go with her, but to sing. AND she wants me to sing All Rise by Babbie Mason. ?????? As if anyone is gonna rise and so what is the point? It is a rather charismatic song, I sang it at a very conservative Southern Baptist church and all of the congregation actually stood up and raised hands and praised the Lord like Pentecostals and the pastor stuttered for 5 minutes after I sat down.

I don't know people, told her I'd pray about it. I'm thinking if I do sing, it should be something proclaiming the gospel and the blood.

I can not even imagine singing in the SDA church, haven't set foot there in like 13 years. Oh my, I feel an ulcer coming on.

Advice?
Carol_2
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Posted on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 8:31 am:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Oh Sabra! I feel for you. It's making my stomach churn just thinking about it.

It's funny the farther I get from SDAism, the more uncomfortable I am around them or their churches....which is sad because much of my family is SDA. It just seems so cultish to me now!

I will keep you in my prayers, that God will lead you and His will be done. I know if it were my mom, though, it would just be an excuse to get me into the church, hoping that by some miracle I would come to my senses when I am with God's true people.

Keep us updated!

Love you girlfriend!

Carol #2
Colleentinker
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Posted on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 9:43 am:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

I agree with Carol. I will pray that you'll know what to do. If youdo decide to sing, I do think your idea of singing about the gospel and the blood of Jesus is really good.

Colleen
Pw
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Posted on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 10:42 am:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

You could always try the Milli Vanilli approach and lip-synch.
Nancy
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Posted on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 1:07 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

PW----I laughed out loud reading your post. I love people w/ a sense of humor!!
I'm w/ Carol in that if I even did sing and my mother ask me to sing at the SDA church, she would be thinking the same thing. "Well if I can just get her in the door, God will do the rest". My mother, though, knows not to even go there w/ me on anything concerning them. We just don't talk about it at all if we can keep from it. If she does bring something up, I never comment, just sat there and then will change the subject. Poor thing, WHY CAN'T SHE SEE!!!!!!! She's 89 years old and I want so bad for to understand why we left and not b/c we were mad! I don't want her to die wondering if she's done enough to get into heaven. Oh Lord, here I go again!
Tracey
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Posted on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 2:31 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

<giggle> The end of your post is so cute Nancy!
I totally identify with it in my own way b/c of my darling C.. But I just can't go back in there and they only referred to EGW twice in almost a year that I was there.. Maybe 3 times <once saying how wrong it was about the 1844 "prophecy" -- You can best believe that he was a guest speaker.>

I wouldn't sing. I believe to take a stand for what you believe in. Jesus said that he came to put mother against daughter.

Now here I go again!
Flyinglady
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Posted on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 4:57 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

I agree with Carol & Colleen. It is just your Mom's way of trying to get you into the church building where you will be hearing "the TRUTH". As I think about it, I would say no to Mom without giving a reason. But that is me. I will pray for you as you make your decision.
I agree with Tracey that when you take a stand, you stick with it. Especially something as important as you eternal life.
Pw, you made me laugh with your Milli Vanilli and lip syncing. I do appreciate those with a sense of humor.
Diana
Sabra
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Posted on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 5:40 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

I absolutely know without a shadow of a doubt that her alterior motive is to get me to church. You all are right about that and I knew that to start with. Thing is, when she comes up here to visit she always goes to church with me. Probably just to make me feel like I should do the same, but maybe one day she will hear the gospel.

Next thing is, we are spending Thurs and Fri with her and Sat we wanted to go to my cousins and have a birthday party for 5 in the family that have Oct. birthdays. She said she didn't want to do anything on the Sabbath and since we decided to do it at my cousins she now wants to do it at her house, everyone is mad at her and no one wants to stay at her house.

I'm keep trying to think about what Jesus would do. I am praying about it. It is causing a lot of division, but then,that has been there.

Maybe I should cancel the whole trip.
Krista
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Posted on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 11:28 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Sabra, Just pray about it and don't worry about what anybody thinks. Ask God for guidance and just do what you feel in your heart gives you a sense of peace.
Flyinglady
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Posted on Saturday, September 25, 2004 - 8:34 am:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Sabra,
The only thing to be concerned about is what Jesus wants you to do. I will be praying for you.
Diana
Loneviking
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Posted on Saturday, September 25, 2004 - 8:52 am:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Well, God does touch hearts through music. If you have the gift--why not use it? As a musician, I've played for the local SDA church. Nope, I haven't seen any change in them but who knows what the future holds? Being there didn't change my opinion about SDA beliefs either. I'd say it's a chance to witness to the truth....

Bill
Sabra
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Posted on Saturday, September 25, 2004 - 10:05 am:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Still undecided. I feel like I would be going into the devils house. The whole thing creeps me out. A church full of dead people staring at me thinking to themselves how deceived I am.

Can I pray that this hurricane, Jeanne, rips the roof off the place? :X
Susan_2
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Posted on Saturday, September 25, 2004 - 12:57 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Sabra, Yeah, I'm pretty sure her real motive is to get you into the SDA doors. I recenly went through a similiar experience with my mom, who is 83. My experience is no where as dramatic as yours but I'll share it anyway. The SDA church here prints up a really nice church directory every few years. Each person gets a wonderful picture in in. They hire Olan Mills. It's a very nice directory. It was just done sevreal weeks ago. I took my mom to the church to have her picture taken for the directory. She tried to convince me to have my picture in it. I refused, telling her I'm not SDA and it just doesn't make sense to do that. Finily she asked me if the Lutheran where I attend has that done and I told her "no, the don't, they never have". I was asked how come and I just told her Lutherans are probably the most mild mannered people on earth but when it comes to spending their money they can get real fisety and they don't want the expense of a photo directory, instead everyone when they get to the church finds their name tag and that works out fine. I also made a point to mention that when the local hoodlam broke out my car windows and I didn't have the money for a new windshield the church paid for me to get a new windshield. No further conversation about having may picture in the local SDA directory. I say to pray about it and hope God tells you not to.
Flyinglady
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Posted on Saturday, September 25, 2004 - 2:38 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Sabra,
If you feel creepy about going into the church and having a church full of dead people staring at you, MAYBE that is God telling you something about not going there. I really like your description of the church. God has taught me to trust my feelings.
I will continue to pray for you. Whatever you decide God can use you. He is so awesome.
Diana
Krista
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Posted on Sunday, September 26, 2004 - 9:33 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Sabra,
Your description reminds me of one I heard recently of a local SDA church - "walking bones." Strange, huh? Where are you in Fla? Now wouldn't it be weird if this were the same church?
Pw
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Posted on Monday, September 27, 2004 - 9:23 am:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

I really don't blame you for not wanting to go back to this SDA church to sing. I haven't been back since 1986 and would feel very out of place if I did. If Hurricane Jeanne doesn't bring the house down, then maybe you should...by singing so badly that you'd sound like a Simon reject on American Idol!
Dd
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Posted on Monday, September 27, 2004 - 10:04 am:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Sabra,
Why not share you love for Jesus? Be bold! Let your voice and life shine for Him! Be glad and rejoice that you have received His glorious grace. Show your joy and contentment in living in His grace. Turn your mother's passive aggressiveness on it's head!

"I waited patiently for the LORD;
And He inclined to me and heard my cry.
He brought me up out of the pit of destruction, out of the miry clay,
And He set my feet upon a rock making my footsteps firm.
He put a NEW SONG in my mouth, a song of praise to our God;
Many will see and fear
And will trust in the LORD." Psalm 40:1-3

Sabra - you go girl! You rock! Break a leg!
Colleentinker
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Posted on Monday, September 27, 2004 - 12:33 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Still praying for you, Sabra.

Colleen
Sabra
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Posted on Monday, September 27, 2004 - 3:59 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

I have been praying and today I was reminded of Paul who was all things to all men to preach the gospel of Christ. He went into the synogogues and preached Christ, what's the difference?

So, what to sing??

Ideas:

Alabaster Box

For Every Mountain

No More Night

Holy Ghost and Fire rain on us---JUST KIDDING!!
Pw
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Posted on Tuesday, September 28, 2004 - 7:13 am:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Sabra, I'm not sure which Florida SDA church you were supposed to sing at, but in today's paper, there's a big full color photo of a SDA church in Melbourne with the entire side demolished. Now, I don't believe it was a particular target because many other churches were damaged as well, it was just eye catching and reminded me of your previous quote.

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