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Cw
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Post Number: 114
Registered: 4-2006


Posted on Monday, September 18, 2006 - 9:05 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Hi Y'all. I have mixed feelings about this but mostly I am praising God for answered prayer-your folks' prayers as well as my own. The reason my feelings are mixed is that I hate to see my little girl sad but I know she will live through this.
D and J broke up last week and it sounds like it's for good. I'm not the one she confides in so I have to get all the facts from my wife Kathy. In fact, I don't think I ever shared that D is my step daughter but that I love her as much as if she were my own.
Anyway, it seems they have been discussing an eventual break-up for some time because the difference in doctrine made it a no-win proposition. For the new ones on the forum, we are not formers but J and his family are strictly so. I'm proud of both of them, but especially D of course, for the maturity level they have reached. D will be 20 next week and J is 19.
My prayer for the last couple of years has been that D would be protected from deceitful spirits and then have the wisdom to make the right decisions. Since I get no feedback personally I have had to trust God more than ever in my life that he was going to honor my (our) prayers.
One of my favorite new memory scriptures (and all this directly led to my making a hobby of scripture memorization-and I have developed a hunger for doing it-ain't God sneaky?) is James 1:2-8. Starting at verse 6 "But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does"
I have been guilty of double-mindedness and have resolved to increase my faith.
D and J are both hurting since this didn't come about out of a fight. They still love each other but they both know that there is no way to make a life together. I am so proud of D for finally refusing to compromise that I just praise God for her. I also pray that J finds another love quickly at the SDA college he attends here in Northern California. D says she's in no hurry which is good. But I still would like to see J no longer available to her. See? My faith is not perfect yet but God is taking me there.
You folks are all dear friends and God gave you to me to help my family through all this. This site will always be in my favorites file and I'll read more than I write probably. Thank you all for being there and praying with me.
Now my prayer will be for the right guy at the right time for D. I at least trusted J with D's virtue. Now she will be preyed upon by young men even in the church that would rob her of that. Please keep her in your prayers as you all remain in mine. CW
Cw
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Post Number: 115
Registered: 4-2006


Posted on Monday, September 18, 2006 - 9:10 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

I just re-read the above and need to clarify. J and his parents are not strictly FORMER SDA. They are strictly SDA and we have never been SDA. I should proof read more carefully. CW
Colleentinker
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Post Number: 4632
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Posted on Monday, September 18, 2006 - 10:41 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Cw, this is amazing and wonderful news. I feel for D and J, but God is faithful. Wow! Thank you for letting us share this part of your life with you!

Yes, Cw, you did share at one time that D was your step-daughter. I totally relate to that fact; our sons are actually my step-sonsóbut they're really my own! What a journey God has taken you on.

Keep checking in with us. We want to hear how you're doingóand what God does in D's life. I think it is remarkable and wonderful that they broke up for doctrinal differencesóthat D would not compromise. Praise God!!

Colleen
Cw
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Post Number: 116
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Posted on Tuesday, September 19, 2006 - 12:13 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Colleen, thanks. Actually you are the only one who knew D is my step daughter from an e-mail you and I shared months ago off the forum. It was not mentioned on the open forum at that time. To me it's a technicality which you can relate to. I have often wished that D had my DNA because there is an automatic bond involved in being a birth parent that a step parent has to earn. And I often have felt that I started out with two strikes against me since D was 8 1/2 years old when we met. I will be staying in touch. You all need to share the blessings when it was your prayers and support that brought a peace through all this. And my prayers will not let up now because D and J are both very heart broken and miss each other terribly right now. I'm sure they are both very tempted to get back to gether to ease the pain. CW
Colleentinker
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Post Number: 4638
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Posted on Tuesday, September 19, 2006 - 4:14 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

CwóI'm sorry! I had a brain freeze and forgot that the information about being a step-parent was not public. But I so understand the commitment you feel. I've often thought that step parents and adoptive parents must have many similar emotional issues even though their circumstances can be somewhat different.

Colleen
Helovesme2
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Post Number: 649
Registered: 8-2004


Posted on Tuesday, September 19, 2006 - 4:25 pm:   Edit PostDelete PostPrint Post   Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Still praying. Thank you for letting us know how things are going!

Mary

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