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Colleentinker
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Username: Colleentinker
Post Number: 6271
Registered: 12-2003
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 10, 2007 - 1:28 pm: |     |
Tim, too cute! So what food does your son seem to relish the most in his new freedom?
Colleen |
Toria
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Username: Toria
Post Number: 163
Registered: 2-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 10, 2007 - 4:59 pm: | |
Grasshopper;
Welcome. You are among friends here.
Praying for you.
Toria |
Flyinglady
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Username: Flyinglady
Post Number: 3967
Registered: 3-2004
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 10, 2007 - 5:28 pm: | |
Grasshopper,
Welcome to FAF. I am glad you are here. Keep coming back and share with us.
Diana |
Marysroses
Registered user
Username: Marysroses
Post Number: 77
Registered: 4-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 10, 2007 - 5:30 pm: | |
Hi Grasshopper!
Welcome. Your nick somehow reminds me of the Karate Kid.
MarysRoses |
Treasurehntr
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Username: Treasurehntr
Post Number: 13
Registered: 7-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 10, 2007 - 5:57 pm: | |
Welcome Grasshopper!..)
Good to see someone who likes Kung Fu reruns as much as I do..)
When you can snatch the pebble from my hand
Ken |
Marysroses
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Username: Marysroses
Post Number: 78
Registered: 4-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 10, 2007 - 6:30 pm: | |
I never DREAMED I'd watch anything kung fu related.
NEVER! Not a chance!
Then we adopted a 2 yr old from korea.
Poor thing had to get used to a new family, family pets (she cried when she saw the dog eat food) a new language, weird food, different ways (she'd also cry if she dropped food and it wasn't given back to her, no matter how much was on her plate)... etc etc etc. She didn't seem to respond to much of anything, toys, tv, books. She almost never said anything, which is normal when absorbing a new language, but she also seldom smiled and never expressed much emotion at all.
So we were at wits end trying to make her happy. (We were prepared it would take time but its like a new born, you know, but then the experience can really wear you down.)
I had her in line at the grocery store, passing a display of rental videos as we waited. She squirmed and wanted down so I let her and watched what she wanted. She picked up a copy of the recently released "Rumble in the Bronx" starring Jackie Chan. It had his picture on the front. I had no clue who Jackie Chan was. I reached to take it from her and put it back, thinking it was a random grab. She sat down hugging it, and started rocking chanting JACKIE! JACKIE! JACKIE!
So I rent a R rated kung fu movie for my TODDLER. (Please don't judge me too harshly, this state of maternal insanity is recognizable to those who've survived colicky babies )
The movie wasn't to my taste but it wasn't bad. Her reaction was priceless. She patted the TV, and chatted a mile a minute in baby talk pidgin korean/english, pointing and smiling. She rocked back and forth on her feet watching, clapping and jumping when Jackie got a bad guy. I fast forwarded the really violent bits and started looking for more. So we ended up with a bunch of Chinese language Jackie movies. The early ones in black and white were in Chinese with english subtitles (hilarious awkward translations), more comic than violent so I wasn't as squeamish about them, and she LOVED them. It got her over the hump of being depressed about her new home. My guess is she was already familiar with them from her foster home, she recognized Jackie from a picture.
Our whole family developed a taste for kung fu movies as a result, something I'd never have predicted! Emily still loves Jackie. 
MarysRoses |
Raven
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Username: Raven
Post Number: 791
Registered: 7-2004
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 10, 2007 - 7:13 pm: | |
quote:So I rent a R rated kung fu movie for my TODDLER. (Please don't judge me too harshly, this state of maternal insanity is recognizable to those who've survived colicky babies )
That is just too funny!! And I would never judge you for that -- it's a perfect comparison to doing crazy things to survive colicky babies -- we had one. We had to put our firstborn on top of the stove (in her infant seat of course) with the exhaust fan on high in order to calm her down. Certain things continued beyond a colicky infancy, and once my husband had to take her as a toddler, at 3:00 in the morning, to shop at Walmart hoping to tire her out so she would consider sleeping. It didn't work, and he got dirty looks from those who thought how awful of him to make his daughter go shopping with him instead of in bed where she belonged. |
Timmy
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Username: Timmy
Post Number: 195
Registered: 8-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 10, 2007 - 8:05 pm: | |
Colleen,
Baby back ribs, Bacon fried with brussel sprouts (he always hated brussel sprouts before but he loves them now) steaks cooked on the grill... our back yard has never been so much fun!
Tim |
Marysroses
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Username: Marysroses
Post Number: 79
Registered: 4-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 10, 2007 - 8:47 pm: | |
Raven,
My son was a very colicky baby, I guess thats why I recognized the "symptoms" |
Colleentinker
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Username: Colleentinker
Post Number: 6274
Registered: 12-2003
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 10, 2007 - 10:14 pm: | |
Tim--what fun! (Bacon fried with Brussels sprouts?? Well, with bacon, they've got to be good!)
MarysRoses, I think it was wonderful that you were able to find something that felt familiar and gave Emily a continuum with her past. And Raven, how did you ever figure out that the stove exhaust fan would calm your baby?!
Colleen |
Reb
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Username: Reb
Post Number: 324
Registered: 5-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 11, 2007 - 7:54 am: | |
I'm craving some baby back ribs right now!
Won't eat pork in front of my wife, but I do eat it when I am by myself and I must say I forgot just how yummy it is!
Freedom is delicious! Praise God! |
Raven
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Username: Raven
Post Number: 792
Registered: 7-2004
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 11, 2007 - 3:43 pm: | |
Colleen - we figured that out by reading in a book that setting a colicky baby on top of the running dryer would calm them down. Our dryer was in the basement, so we decided the stove exhaust fan might work similarly, and it did! |
Philharris
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Username: Philharris
Post Number: 112
Registered: 5-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 11, 2007 - 8:18 pm: | |
Well, all of your stories put together tells me one rule of thumb: It takes a parent to determine what is best for a child.
Case in point:
I have a grandson, who is now a teenager and doing great, but was born five month premature. When he was born, he fit in the palm of one hand and spent the first several months of his life in an incubator. To this day he will freak out if he hears rhythmic humming sounds. My daughter is constantly finding solutions on how to deal with him that the experts don't know.
Phil |
Colleentinker
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Username: Colleentinker
Post Number: 6279
Registered: 12-2003
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 11, 2007 - 10:51 pm: | |
How resourceful, Raven! I love it.
Phil, that is an amazing thing about your grandson. Those months in the incubator must have been terribly traumatic for him--he was neither in his familiar womb nor being held and cared for by the mom and dad with the familiar voices. The isolation he must have experienced in his non-verbal, generalized way is really sad to contemplate. Yes, your daughter has insight into him that no expert would have.
Colleen |
